Being Busy in Our Marriage

In episode 14, Trent and Greg talk about the importance having, pursuing, and experiencing a healthy marriage. Combining ministry and marriage can sometimes be messy. This is all the more reason to be busy creating a healthy marriage. When our marriages are healthy, our churches are healthier.

Show Notes

Why is this something we are even talking about on this podcast?

Ministry and Marriage can be messy.
Your family feels the expectation.
Your church has expectations for your family.

Our churches will be healthier when our marriages are healthy:

Are we managing our time well?
Are we doing the hard work of pursuing our wife?
Are we thinking about how the health of our marriage impacts the health of our church?

How do we deal with the stresses and expectations of our marriage?

The 5 Screams of Marriage (see book The Self-Centered Marriage)

What are the steps we should take now in creating a healthy marriage?

Have a healthy conversation.
Identify where you are at personally.
Begin to put a plan in place where the emotional stress comes out.
Know that conflict with our wife is sinful.
Get some help (counseling, books, podcasts, etc)

How should we overlap ministry and marriage and cultivate a healthy marriage?

Communicate clear expectations
Practice 1 Corinthians 13 (how we show love and see love endure through all things)

BOOKS MENTIONED:

Choosing to Cheat, by Andy Stanley
The Self-Centered Marriage, by Hal Runkel

EPISODE 14 QUESTIONS:

What are current sources of conflict in your marriage right now?
How are you screaming at one another (practicing the 5 screams) in your marriage? What is your plan to move forward in a healthy way?
How does your spouse feel about being in ministry? Has this conversation happened? If so, how did it go?
When was the last time you talked through the overlap of marriage and ministry? In other words, how have you developed guardrails in your marriage for your time, schedule, and expectations?
How can you celebrate your spouse today? How can you praise God today for the gift of your spouse?