Romance, Sex, and Marriage

In episode 17, Pastor Greg and Pastor Trent talk about being busy with our sex life in marriage. Sex is a messy subject in the church. Even more, it’s not mentioned much in the area of training and equipping pastors. However, sex is a gift in marriage. When your sex life with your spouse is healthy, your marriage is healthy. And when our marriages are healthier, your church is healthier.

Show Notes

Why don’t we ever talk about this subject in the area of training pastors?

It’s messy.
It can be awkward.
However, it is a gift to be stewarded.

What’s the problem?

Couples forget to practice romance.
The business of life takes over our schedules.
Couples stop having fun and pursuing one another.

How do we keep the runway of romance alive in our marriages?

Romance is developed over time. It’s not microwaveable.
The goal is connection. We want to focus our attention on connection.
We often focus on communication only.
Our communication is for the purpose of administration, not connection.
We need face-to-face time… all the time.
Having fun and dating one another.

How can sex become an unhealthy idol in our life and marriage?

Idolatry begins in our heart before it comes out in our life.
Behavior modification is not our approach
Sex is viewed as God, Gross, or GIFT

Why is it important to redeem the conversation on sex in the life of a pastor?

When you don’t have a healthy sex life as a pastor with your wife, you will begin to compensate in other areas:

Affairs
Pornography
Etc

This area will kill your ministry and pastoral influence faster than any other area.

BOOKS MENTIONED:

The Five Love Languages, by Gary Chapman

EPISODE 17 QUOTES:

If we want to have healthy churches, we have to have healthy marriages.
You need a healthy marriage in order to enjoy a healthy sex life.
Romance is built into the small things you do every single day in pursuing your spouse.
We are all created to connect.
Fun is not a luxury in marriage. Fun is necessary in marriage.
Leaving a legacy that lasts a lifetime is summed in how you pursue your wife today.